"Peoples opinions of others are entirely based on how they believe those people view themselves."
Make sense?
Example 1. You know a woman who is remarkably well-dressed in a very modern sense and she is very pretty but never talks to you. You assume that because she never meets your eyes that she is proud, shallow, and believes you to be beneath her and if you are weak spirited you let this affect your opinion of yourself and overall happiness. When in reality she is merely shy, wishes to please, and has just as much social awkwardness as you do.
Example 2. Based on my first version of this thesis. I was a young teenager sitting in church and dreading that my hair wasn't doing exactly what I wanted it to. I assumed that everyone's good opinion was based upon the perfection of my hair and so judged myself accordingly. Therefore I was miserable and blamed everyone else for their judgements making me feel inadequate and felt doomed to always being second string and less than good enough so why bother trying so hard if it was only going to make me miserable? Luckily after that meeting I realized that I hadn't noticed what anyone else's hair was doing. Further, I couldn't even recall what anyone else looked like at all the Sunday before and realized that everyone must care about my appearance as much as I cared about theirs.
Conclusion of theory. One must always go about in good spirits and then they will recommend themselves to the good opinion of everybody regardless of station, looks, or choice of friends. The key is clear, confident, communication to avoid misunderstandings.
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